Early in 2013 we picked up our Boxer pup, Nacho, and she bought great puppy energy with her! It was such a joy to watch her bond with our older dogs, and discover the world. And when she slept we couldn’t help but smile at her squishy face and gentle snores.
But I was constantly worried that we couldn’t keep her safe, and wondered if we had made a mistake. I felt anxious, exhausted and a little crazy – why wasn’t I completely in love with this gorgeous little nugget?
Well, it turns out the ‘puppy blues’ are pretty common, and refers to the feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, and stress that new dog owners can experience shortly after bringing a puppy home. The symptoms can include, but are not limited to:
- Fatigue: Puppies require a lot of attention and care, which can be exhausting, especially if they disrupt sleep.
- Frustration: Training a puppy can be challenging and may lead to frustration if progress is slow or if the puppy is particularly stubborn.
- Guilt: Owners might feel guilty if they feel they aren’t bonding with the puppy or if they feel regret about getting a puppy.
- Anxiety: Concerns about the puppy’s health, behavior, and the responsibility of pet ownership can cause anxiety.
- Sadness: Some owners might feel sad or disappointed if the reality of having a puppy doesn’t match their expectations.
These feelings are usually temporary and often improve as the puppy becomes more trained and integrated into the household. And there are some effective ways to manage these feelings while navigating the early stages of puppy ownership:
Practical Strategies
- Create a Routine: Establish a consistent daily routine for feeding, toilet breaks, playtime, and training. This helps the puppy adjust and gives you a sense of control.
- Training: Enroll in puppy training classes or work with a professional trainer. Consistent training can improve behavior and reduce frustration.
- Exercise: Ensure your puppy gets enough physical and mental exercise. A tired puppy is often a well-behaved puppy.
- Puppy-Proofing: Make your home safe and puppy-proof to prevent accidents and reduce stress.
Emotional Support
- Support Network: Reach out to friends, family, or other pet owners who can offer advice, support, and reassurance.
- Join a Community: Participate in online forums or local groups for puppy owners. Sharing experiences and tips can be comforting and helpful.
- Ask for Help: Don’t hesitate to ask for help with puppy care from family members or hire a pet sitter or dog walker if needed.
Self-Care
- Take Breaks: Take short breaks from the puppy when needed. This could mean having someone else watch the puppy while you take some time for yourself.
- Manage Expectations: Understand that it’s normal for the initial period to be challenging. Puppies require time to adjust and learn.
- Practice Patience: Remember that training and raising a puppy is a process that requires patience and time.
- Focus on the Positive: Celebrate small victories and progress. Keep a journal of positive moments to remind yourself of the good times.
- Rest: Ensure you get enough sleep and rest. Taking care of yourself will help you better care for your puppy.
Education
- Learn About Puppy Development: Educate yourself about the stages of puppy development and what to expect. Understanding normal behavior can alleviate concerns.
- Read Books or Articles: There are many resources available on puppy training and care that can provide valuable information and reassurance.
As for Nacho and me – seeking support from friends and family as well as professional dog training helped me through the puppy blues and I’d say we were on level ground within 3 months. We celebrate her 12th birthday later this year and are grateful for every moment spent with her. The early days were tough, but with patience and support from those around us we have built a wonderful life together. And honestly, I couldn’t love her more!
